Secret Sisterhood

by Monique Miller

Genres: African American; African American Christian; Christian Fiction

Synopsis

Secret Sisterhood focuses on the lives of three women who share one painful truth: they can't have the children they so desperately desire. Shelby Tomlinson works as a registered nurse in an infertility clinic, which makes it even more difficult to deal with her own inability to conceive a child. Her husband, Phillip, avoids the subject like the plague, and Shelby feels she has no one she can confide in. When she starts experiencing anxiety attacks, Shelby turns to God, praying for guidance. She hopes it's true what they say, that He will not give her more than she can bear. Crystal Shaw has two dreams: to open her own daycare center, and to have a child of her own. While one of her dreams is about to come true, the other one has to be deferred indefinitely. Now Crystal endures a daily test as she works in a daycare center, caring for other people's children. She often finds herself judging people and wondering why God would bless them with children and not her. Will Crystal learn how to trust God in all the areas of her life, even when things seem at their worst? Vivian Parker appears to have it all. She's living the life she's been planning ever since she was thirteen, right down to the perfect rich husband. The only thing missing from her original plan is a baby. She and her husband kept pushing back the date to start a family, and now it might be too late. Now she is forced to re-evaluate everything, including her faith in God.

Release date: June 20, 2013

Publisher: Urban Christian

Print pages: 304

Sample

Shelby’s trembling forefinger traced her husband’s lips on the enlarged 4x6 photograph she held. She had used the same finger that very morning on his lips. The tender touch she gave caused him to stir awake with a smile. Just as she had wanted and expected, he pulled her into an embrace and kissed her.

Now she held the picture, which usually sat on her office desk, in hopes to simulate the feelings she’d had earlier that morning. She needed to pull from her “happy place.” That is what her psychotherapist called it. Holding the picture of her husband and thinking about their morning kiss helped her to relive the feelings.

Thankfully, she didn’t have to use the psychotherapy technique often since the anxiety attacks were inconsistent. They usually happened when she was highly stressed or if she was pondering over something with worry for too long.

Staring at the picture, Shelby remembered what their early morning kiss led to and the tightening in her chest and rapid heartbeats slowly subsided. She smiled as the pain subsided.

Beads of sweat formed quickly. The sweat was predictable with the hot flashes she experienced after each anxiety attack. One second she was cool—the vent in her office blowing directly down on her—then the next second she felt as if she was back outside in the ninety-five degree North Carolina heat. Taking the lid off the soda cup left over from lunch, she pulled out a piece of ice and wiped it on her forehead, cheeks, and neck.

It had been a few months since she’d had an attack. The cause of that attack was the same as the one this afternoon—she had been stressing about wanting to get pregnant.

She’d found that the best relief from the anxiety attacks was to practice the psychotherapy techniques her childhood doctor taught her. Shelby’s mother had taken her to see the doctor on her first day of junior high school. That was when Shelby had her first attack. She’d been stressing over the first day at a new school. Just before leaving to go to school that morning, her monthly cycle started for the first time. Even though Shelby had been scared and excited at the same time about the transition into womanhood, her fears of going to school and being embarrassed about her clothing getting messed up overtook her. Her panic attack happened in the girls’ bathroom before she made it to her first class.

She hated referring to the techniques as psychotherapy, so she called them her mini-vacations instead. During her mini-vacations, she focused on something that brought her joy. Over the years she found that pictures of her loved ones helped the most. So as a result, in her office, purse, and home, there were many memorable pictures scattered about.

Attempting to take a deep breath, Shelby focused on the photo. It was taken two years prior during their annual family vacation in Mexico. Each year for as long as she could remember her family had taken a family vacation. Since she had gotten married, her husband Phillip was now a part of the tradition.

She stood next to her husband as they exited their cruise-ship. They were wearing matching sombreros, which shielded them from the hot Mexican sun. She could barely see his beautiful hazel eyes because of the shadow cast by the hat. Her tawny-colored skin had started turning bronze during the first couple days of their vacation.

Their vacation turned out to be wonderful. Upon their return, Shelby’s mother asked if she could expect grandchildren soon. Sadly, Shelby hadn’t been able to give her mother an answer that day or since. Shelby often asked herself the same question, to the point of stressing. This nagging question as well and the influx of prenatal patients she saw before lunch caused her to have her most recent attack.

Suddenly Shelby heard a knock at the door. She placed the picture back on her desk and pulled out a Kleenex to wipe her hands and face. Her mini-vacation was over and it was back to reality—work.

“Come in,” Shelby said, clearing her throat.

The door opened. Shelby could hear the talking from the lobby full of patients echoing. Her co-worker and friend, Rachel, stepped in, closing the door behind her. Rachel’s face was flushed. She sat back in a patient chair opposite Shelby and fanned herself with the medium-sized Post-It Note she was holding.

“Can I sit for just a second and catch my breath?” Rachel asked. “Is the air working? It seems like it’s over ninety degrees in here,” she let out a sigh and rubbed her temples. “It’s been such a mad house today.”

“I know, that power outage yesterday wasn’t good,” Shelby said, nervously dabbing the Kleenex on her neck. She always felt embarrassed by the attacks, but was relieved Rachel had walked in and not one of the other nurses. “You know we have the patients we couldn’t finish seeing yesterday, plus our regular schedule. Being closed Monday for the upcoming Labor Day holiday doesn’t help either.”

Shelby glanced at the picture she had just held. “I was in the middle of taking a mini-vacation from today’s reality.”

“Are you okay?” Rachel asked.

Shelby smiled. “Yeah, I’m fine. It was just a little attack this time.” Shelby had confided in Rachel about the attacks just after she had witnessed one.

“Are you sure? What do you think triggered it?”

“I guess pondering too much on when and if I’m ever going to have a child. That, coupled with the influx of all those prenatal patients we had this morning.” The fact that my husband avoids me like the plague when I want to talk about my feelings and concerns really doesn’t help either, she thought. Shelby’s face darkened as she thought about all the times her husband changed the subject or conveniently found a way to wriggle out of talking to her. She saw the look of concern on Rachel’s face. “But don’t worry, I’ll be fine.” She straightened her face and smiled to reassure Rachel and herself as well.

Rachel leaned forward and touched Shelby’s hand. “It’s me you’re talking to. You don’t have to put up any false pretenses.”

“I know, and I thank you. But I assure you, I’ll be fine.” Her lips felt dry, so Shelby picked up her purse and rummaged through it for lip-gloss.

Rachel rolled her neck around her shoulders. She slipped her hands under her curly auburn hair to knead her neck. “I need a mini-vacation. You always look so refreshed after you take one.”

Shelby loved her friend for showing her obvious concern and then backing off the subject of the attack. “You should try it sometime. It’s economical and you don’t need a passport,” Shelby said.

“I might have to take you up on that someday.”

Shelby glanced at her watch. It was one o’clock in the afternoon.

Rachel placed the Post-It on Shelby’s desk in front of her. “Do you still have Ms. Cline’s chart?”

Shelby rolled her eyes. “You’re kidding me right? It’s been so busy I haven’t had time to complete any of my charts. Of course I still have her chart.”

“I figured you did. Anyway, Walter Reed Hospital called, and they need Ms. Cline’s recent lab results faxed to them A.S.A.P.”

Shelby sighed. “One more thing to add to my long list of things to do. Do you have their fax number?”

Rachel perked up, standing immediately. “It’s right there on the Post-It.” She pointed to the fax number. “I need to tend to my patients, you know you should do the same thing,” Rachel said playfully.

Shelby grabbed her stress ball and threw it at Rachel. “Funny, very funny.” She snorted as she laughed.

Just before running out of the office, Rachel picked up the ball and threw it back, leaving the door ajar. Sounds of incoming patients filled the lobby.

Shelby stood slowly and took a deeper, almost painless breath this time. How nice it would be if I didn’t have to see any pregnant patients this afternoon, she thought.

When she first began working at Silvermont Women’s Center as a registered nurse, Shelby had loved working with all the patients, especially the prenatal ones. She’d secured the job just two months after graduating from Carson State University, a local college. Shelby considered herself blessed to get the job. Silvermont Women’s Center was known throughout the state of North Carolina for being one of the best OB/GYN and infertility offices.

Over the years she had seen women of all types and ages come through the office for one reason or another. The first couple of years Shelby actually had an affinity for working with the pregnant patients. Most of them seemed to have a joyous radiance about them, especially when she told them the positive results of their pregnancy tests. She loved giving the good news.

The euphoria about other women getting pregnant vanished after two years of trying to become pregnant herself. Shelby eventually got to the point where she dreaded sharing the positive test results with her patients.

She began to envy many of the women, especially the ones who bragged about easily getting pregnant after only a month or two of trying. Then there were times when she felt angry towards the women who hoped they weren’t pregnant. Shelby would deliver the good news of their pregnancies and they looked horrified—as if it was the worst thing in the world. Shelby knew differently. There was nothing worse than praying for months and months to become pregnant—but to no avail.

Lately, the only time she felt solace was when she was working with the women who were having trouble conceiving. She could relate to them. They, to some degree or another, were in the same boat as she. Shelby felt like she was in a secret sisterhood with these women. Her “sisters” knew exactly how it felt to long for a child day after day. They knew the emotional ups and downs.

Often when her sisters needed a listening ear, they confided in Shelby. Whenever time allowed during their appointments, Shelby spent extra time talking with them about their grief. She listened attentively, knowing these women needed to vent.

There were many times Shelby wished she had someone to confide in, especially her husband. Often she wanted to tell her sisters that she had many of the same concerns and longings. But it wasn’t professional to talk to them about her personal problems, even if they seemed to be similar. Nor did she want to confide her longings to her closest friends or family. She felt too embarrassed to talk to them and didn’t think they would truly understand. No one close to her seemed to be having any problems having babies. All of her married friends either already had children or were pregnant. So she kept all of her thoughts to herself.

Now after four years of working at Silvermont OB/GYN, overall, she continued to enjoy her work. But some days the longing to have a child coupled with the flood of prenatal patients, got to her so much that she started stressing. She stressed to the point that the anxiety attacks, which had ceased her freshman year in college, returned.

Before she left the comforts of her office, Shelby checked her appearance in the full-length mirror behind the door. She finger-combed her shoulder length hair, putting out of place hairs back. She checked her clothing to make sure her make-up still looked fresh. Once she was presentable enough to face the world, she plastered on a smile and left her office, ready to see the patients.

She checked off the next appointment. The patient was new, a young girl only 15-years-old. She was five foot, nine inches and weighed 125 pounds, which meant the girl had been underweight prior to the pregnancy.

It wasn’t a big surprise anymore for Shelby to see someone so young, pregnant. The youngest had been 12, which wasn’t so common. It was common for most of the teens to come in the office late in their pregnancies, usually after the girls couldn’t conceal their swelling stomachs from their parents anymore.

She shook her head wondering again why this 15-year-old was pregnant instead of her. Inwardly Shelby scolded herself. It was negative thoughts like that which caused her to have attacks. She took a deep breath, remembering the smile on her husband’s face in the photograph, counted to ten in her head, and pushed the negative thoughts out of her mind.

She opened the door to the waiting area. Just as it had been earlier that morning, the lobby was packed with patients. All types of women sat waiting to be seen by the doctors. A woman of Asian decent sat with her hands folded staring out of the window towards the parking lot. Another woman who looked of African American decent read a novel while twirling one of her dreadlocks between her fingers. A Caucasian woman, who looked to be about 65-years-old, sat reading the Silvermont Times.

Shelby knew some of the women were there for obstetric appointments. Others for gynecological needs and still others were there for their infertility appointments. Except for the women with obviously swollen bellies, you really couldn’t tell why each woman was there just by looking at their faces.

In the corner of the room she saw a young Caucasian girl with her head down. Shelby figured it was her patient from the height and weight recorded on the chart.

Shelby called the name, “Allison Smith.”

When the girl stood, Shelby took a double take. Allison’s face was caked with makeup, which made her look to be at least 25 years old. The face paint consisted of heavy eye shadow, burgundy rouge, matching eyeliner, thick mascara, and burgundy lipstick. Her nails looked like claws; at least an inch long in an array of neon colors. She wore navy overalls with a blue tank top. The top was too small and showed the sides of her engorged stomach.

The perfume the girl wore didn’t mask the cigarette smoke, which reeked from her hair and clothing. The stench was so strong, it made Shelby want to sneeze. If she had driven by Allison on the street, she’d have thought the girl was a prostitute.

Shelby smiled as warmly as possible, hoping the smile made it to her eyes. As Allison followed her back to the exam area, she smacked on a piece of gum. Her eyes widened as she looked around the unfamiliar setting.

“Right this way,” Shelby said as the teen trailed slowly behind her into the examination room. “Allison, Dr. Evans will exam you in here. You’ll need to put on this smock and cover your legs with this sheet.” Shelby pointed to the items already laid out on the exam table. “Do you have any questions before I leave?”

Allison continued to smack on the gum. “Yeah, can the doctor tell me when the baby is gonna come?” The voice was indeed that of a 15-year-old—hesitant, whiny, and insecure.

“Yes, Dr. Evans will be able to give you a due date based on your LMP and the ultrasound.”

The girl stopped smacking, her face contorted into a frown. “LPM? Ultra what? What’s that?”

Shelby had momentarily forgotten she was speaking with a 15-year-old. Allison’s choice of words and facial expressions brought her back to reality.

Shelby spoke precisely, pacing each word. “The L-M-P is the first day of your last period. The ultrasound is going to take a picture of your uterus to see how big the fetus, your baby, is at this time. With these pieces of information the doctor will give you a due date; she’ll tell you when the baby will be born.”

The girl’s face lit up. “You mean the doctor can take a picture of my baby right now, and I can see what it’ll look like?”

Shelby had to bite the insides of her mouth to keep from looking amused. “No, it’s not that kind of picture. It won’t even look like a baby to you when the doctor shows you the ultrasound. Dr. Evans can explain more to you when she comes in.”

The girl’s frown turned to fear. “Will it hurt?”

“No, the ultrasound won’t hurt. We will have to do some blood work before you leave, that will only hurt a little, for a few seconds.”

The girl started rubbing her hands together nervously, her eyes darting around the room as if she wanted to escape. She shrank back from Shelby. “I don’t wanna have that done. Y’all can do that ultra thing, but I don’t want y’all putting any needles in me. My mama says I have a low tolerance for pain. Y’all ain’t gonna put no needles in me.”

“I understand your concerns. I assure you the doctor will only do what is necessary to make sure you and the baby are doing well. Dr. Evans will explain more to you when she comes in.” Shelby walked towards the door. “I am going to step out so you can get undressed. Do you have anymore questions before I leave?”

The only reply Shelby got was the humming of the overhead florescent light. With reluctance, the girl started undressing. Shelby took this as her cue to leave and headed out the door.

Young girls like Allison gave Shelby so many mixed feelings. On one hand, she felt sorry for Allison being so young and about to undertake grown-up responsibilities of becoming a parent. On the other hand, she often felt angry. She couldn’t understand why God allowed girls so young to become pregnant when they obviously didn’t need to be. This particular girl burned her up because she was more concerned with the pain of a needle than the health of her baby.

Shelby sighed thinking how the girl would react when she found out how much pain she’d be in for labor. Shelby shook her head.

“Why are you shaking your head?” Rachel said startling her.

“Oh, nothing.” Shelby said and shrugged it off.

A sheepish grin sprawled across Rachel’s face. “I’ve got something for you. This will really make you shake your head.”

With hesitance Shelby asked, “What?” and braced herself. She knew Rachel pretty well. After four years of working closely together, they didn’t have much of a choice. Even though Rachel’s Northern-Irish upbringing was totally different from Shelby’s southern, African-American one, it had only taken them a couple of months to become friends.

“Your favorite patient is here.” Rachel said.

“My favorite patient?” Shelby’s eyebrows furrowed as she thought. “I have plenty of patients I like.”

“Not that kind of favorite.” Rachel’s grin grew wider.

Shelby’s thoughts shifted from positive to dread. If Rachel hadn’t meant her favorite in a good way, then she was being sarcastic. There were a couple of patients who quickly came to mind, patients who had rubbed Shelby the wrong way more than once. Their number was minimal, especially since a couple of the patients had transferred to other doctor’s offices. She’d known the women’s reasons for leaving weren’t totally her fault. They were just women who were not going to be satisfied even if Jesus himself had been the actual doctor.

Shelby glanced over Rachel’s shoulder at the mountain of charts waiting in the basket. “Help me out here,” she pleaded.

“I’ll give you three guesses.”

Shelby proceeded to guess in order to minimize the delay. With her own sarcasm she said, “One, it’s a woman, two she is pregnant, and three she doesn’t want me for her nurse.”

“Two out of three ain’t bad.” Rachel walked away from Shelby towards her own office.

Shelby’s mouth dropped open. “So you’re just going to leave me hanging?”

“No, just check the ‘In’ basket. She’s the next chart. And knowing how much you care for all our patients, I told everyone else to leave her for you.”

Proceeding to the basket she pulled out the worn thick chart. Her eyes widened, and her head immediately started to hurt. She rubbed her temples wondering if the day could get any worse.

She flipped the chart open hoping that it was a different Melva Lewis. But there was no such luck. Ms. Lewis was her most dreaded patient who only came in for two things: her yearly annual exam and whenever she was pregnant. Shelby knew she wasn’t due for an annual exam because she had just had it a couple of months prior.

Maybe, just maybe, she was in for something else, Shelby hoped. With a deep breath she walked to the waiting area to call Melva back.

“Ms. Lewis,” Shelby said with a forced smile. “You can come back now.”

The woman’s face lit up as soon as she saw Shelby. “Oh, Shelby. What’s up girl? I was hoping I’d see you.” She walked right past Shelby as she spoke. Melva had started calling Shelby “girl” during her third pregnancy. She acted as if she and Shelby were long time friends from then on.

“Well, you got lucky,” Shelby said, thinking it was really she who had the luck; bad luck.

“Ms. Lewis, what can we do for you today?” Shelby asked.

“Shelby,” she said, slowly looking down at her feet, “it’s happened again. I’m late. I think I’m pregnant.”

Shelby clearly recalled the last time Melva had been in the office for her postpartum appointment. Shelby had tried to stress the importance of birth control, especially so soon after having a baby. Melva told Shelby she didn’t like taking “none of that stuff”. Then Shelby mentioned abstinence, and Melva looked at Shelby as if she had lost her mind.

Melva’s acting surprised about being pregnant wasn’t anything new either. In four years, Shelby had already seen Melva for three pregnancies, although this would actually be her sixth child.

“Shelby, I got a good man whose gonna stick by me. I already told him I might be pregnant, and he didn’t even tell me to get rid of it, like that last no good jerk!”

“So you have a new friend?” Shelby asked with slight curiosity. Melva’s life was like an on-going soap opera when it came to her baby’s daddies.

“I sure do, and Freddy is the best man a woman could have. He so kind to all my kids. He even buys them books and toys. And you know he ain’t all that bad looking either. Looks real nice when he puts on a dress shirt,” Melva rambled on. “Yeah, he a good man. I know he’ll take care of his baby. He says he takes care of all his other kids.”

“Well, good for you,” Shelby said, wondering what could have happened in the woman’s life to cause her to have such low standards.

The woman was only two years older than Shelby. The first time Shelby saw her she thought Melva was one of the prettiest women she had ever seen. Today Melva’s jet-black hair was fixed in a bun with glossy finger waves. Except for brown lip-gloss, she wore no other make up. She didn’t need any. Her skin was flawless. Melva always lost all of her pregnancy weight within a month after each delivery so nobody would ever guess she already had five children.

“I just want to make sure before I tell Freddy, I don’t want to get his hopes up if I’m not,” Melva continued to ramble on.

Shelby didn’t think this Freddy would be the “One,” Melva’s knight in shining armor, just as none of the others had been. Shelby was sure Melva wouldn’t realize this until it was too late.

The pregnancy test came back positive. Shelby took her vital signs and drew blood for further tests. Afterwards, she showed Melva to the exam room.

“Shelby you don’t have to tell me what to do. I know what to do from here,” Melva said, hopping up on the exam table. “Girl, when you gonna get started on having some children?”

It was the question Shelby was hoping Melva would skip this trip. Every time Melva came in, she asked the very same question and each time Shelby gave her the same answer.

“Oh, when the time is right, we’ll add to our family. I’ll be sure to let you know.” Shelby looked at her watch. “Melva, I’d really love to talk to you a little longer, but you saw that waiting area. We’re swamped.”

Without waiting for the woman to come up with another question or comment, Shelby grabbed the doorknob and quickly left the exam room.

The rest of the afternoon was just as hectic as the morning. Patient after patient, Shelby became more depressed about all the prenatal women she was seeing.

God smiled on her at the very end of the day. Her last patient turned out to be a breath of fresh air. It was April Henderson, a member of Shelby’s Secret Sisterhood.

She had known April for over a year and a half, ever since she had started coming to see Dr. Evans for infertility treatments. Shelby remembered April’s first visit—she had been an excited newlywed. From day one, she and her husband had wanted a child badly, but after a year of trying on their own, they sought professional help. Dr. Evans started seeing April as an infertility patient at that time. Since then, both April and her husband had undergone a battery of tests to find out what the problem might be.

Dr. Evans had found the problem to be a simple one in terms of infertility and costs. April’s monthly cycles lasted on the average of about thirty-eight days, which caused her to ovulate on day nineteen of her cycle, instead of the normal twenty-eight day cycle in which most women ovulate on day fourteen. During their year of trying, April and her husband had done some of their own research on getting pregnant and tried month after month to conceive on day fourteen of her cycle only to find out that they had been focusing on the wrong day.

Shelby saw a dazed look on April’s face as soon as she saw her in the lobby. After calling her in from the waiting area, Shelby said with concern, “Mrs. Henderson, I didn’t know you had an appointment today. What’s going on?”

“Shelby,” she said almost in a whisper, “I think I’m pregnant. I’m so nervous. I’m late, and I can’t believe it might be true.” She quivered as she spoke.

Shelby began to smile, now understanding the look on April’s face. “April, sit down for a second. You’re shaking like a leaf.”

“I really have to go to the bathroom. I didn’t want to use it until I got here for the test.”

“Okay, what are we waiting for? Let’s find out.” Shelby led her towards the bathroom, giving her a cup to collect a urine sample. A few minutes later, Shelby saw the positive result and could hardly contain her excitement. She gave April the good news and a hug. She then happily set the date for April’s first prenatal appointment.

After April left, Shelby walked back to her office and closed the door. She had renewed hope that there was still a chance for her. She made up her mind. She would attempt to bring up the subject of getting pregnant to her husband again. It was eating her up inside, and she had to confront him about it. Somehow she’d have to make him talk.

Shelby eased into her SUV. The leather seats were warm so she turned on the air conditioner. North Carolina was experiencing an Indian summer. Even though it was almost Labor Day, the temperatures were still reaching ninety and above. The heat and humidity were something she had been used to all her life, so they didn’t really bother her.

As she headed out of the parking lot, Shelby thought more about how afraid she was to talk to her husband. She couldn’t let the fear get the best of her. She knew if she didn’t try to face the fear head on, it would continue to haunt her. It was time for her and Phillip to talk and as far as Shelby was concerned, this would be the night. This time she would stand her ground and not let his evasiveness deter her from talking about wanting to have a child. Thoughts of her past failed attempts to broach the subject, made her heart quicken. Her husband would often change the subject or make up lame stories about having to go somewhere or do something. But not tonight. She wouldn’t allow it.

The forty-five minute commute home would give Shelby time to figure out exactly how and when the conversation would take place. She turned the radio to 1520 AM to listen to the traffic report for possible delays on the interstate. Traffic was already pretty heavy. Silvermont had its share of accidents during ru. . .