Full Circle

by Michael Thomas Ford

Genres: LGBT Gay

Synopsis

History professor Ned Brummel is living happily with his partner of twelve years in small-town Maine when he receives a phone call from his estranged friend--Jack--telling him that another friend--Andy--is very ill and possibly near death. As Ned boards a plane to Chicago on his way to his friend's bedside, he embarks on another journey into memory, examining the major events and small moments that have shaped his world and his relationships with these two very different, very important men. Growing up together through the restrictive 1950's and confusing '60's, Jackson "Jack" Grace and Ned Brummel took solace in their love for each other. But once they arrive at college in 1969 and meet handsome farm boy Andy Kowalski, everything changes. Despite Andy's apparent heterosexuality, both Jack and Ned fall hard for him, straining their close friendship. Soon, the three men will become involved in a series of intense liaisons and bitter betrayals, coming together and flying apart, as they alternately hurt, love, shape, and heal one another over the course of years. From the heady, drug- and sex-fueled days of San Francisco in the wild seventies to the haunting spectre of AIDS in the eighties and the righteous activism of the nineties, their relationship transforms and grows, reflecting the changes going on around them. Now, together again in the most crucial and intimate of settings, Ned, Jack, and Andy have another chance to confront the damage of the past and embrace the bonds of friendship and love that have stood the test of time. "Impactful. . .real. . .Ford's beautiful story makes it all seem possible and believable. . .these are rich characters, heartfelt descriptions and real-life happenings that resonate. . .allow yourself to get lost in this story." -- The Lambda Book Report

Release date: August 1, 2007

Publisher: Kensington Books

Print pages: 448

Sample

FULL CIRCLE

“Summer isn’t the same without hitting the beach, getting a sunburn and devouring a deliciously soapy novel. Ford knows how to draw in a reader with sex and sin.”

—Entertainment Weekly

“A must read for every gay man. Older readers will be reminded of where we’ve been and just how far we’ve come. Younger readers will be made more aware of recent gay history. And all will have more respect for what gay men have had to endure and how they’ve managed to overcome it.”

—Envy Man Magazine

“An excellent summer read.” —Dallas Voice

“Ford’s sprawling tale chronicles the highlights of gay history in the latter half of the 20th century.”

—Metsource

“Full Circle stunningly succeeds as a great novel.”

—We the People

“A beautiful exploration of what it means to be lifelong friends.”

—H/X Magazine

“The characters’ many brushes with homosexual history—Harvey Milk trolling for votes in gay bars, the unfurling of the first Rainbow flag, the sexual energy of early ACT UP meetings—will resonate with gay readers.”

—Publishers Weekly

“A powerful story…a moving saga of three friends but it is also an unyielding story that celebrates the power of friendship and deep feelings…through the three major characters Ford portrays the gay “every man” having him travel through the history of gay America. And he does so with beautiful prose, with realism and with a heightened sense of emotion.”

—LittleRockPride.com

LOOKING FOR IT

“An insightful and entertaining read about what we seek, and what answers we find within and without.”

—Booklist

“Ford handles his broad, diverse cast with amazing ease, and demonstrates a natural gift for storytelling.” —Bay Area Reporter

LOOKING FOR IT

“Give Michael Thomas Ford credit for giving us a group of identifiable characters who do not live in LA, NYC, or Miami, but in a small town like those where most readers actually live. It’s also nice to see these characters addressing realistic differences of generation as well as spirituality, in addition to the usual mix of looking for love, dealing with internalized homophobia and creating support systems through friendships and families of choice.”

—Instinct

“Ford handles his broad, diverse cast with aplomb, and his knowing sense of humor and emphasis on the positive make this novel as warm and inviting as a group hug.”

—Publishers Weekly

“Ford has a knack for bringing together characters of all ages who share a common desire of just wanting to be loved and happy. Of all the books I reviewed this past year, this one generated the most response.”

—We the People

“A warm-hearted story about the importance of friendship and the miracle of connection…Ford’s fluid prose and strong storytelling deliver charming credibility.”

—Outlook News

“Few authors have bothered to represent gay life outside of the usual queer meccas, and Ford captures it perfectly…Readers expecting a repeat of Ford’s far sunnier Last Summer will be in for a shock, but Looking For It is a stronger, weightier product that will have readers impatiently turning pages to see how things turn out.”

—Bay Windows (Boston)

LAST SUMMER

“He effectively draws his readers into the wild world of Provincetown…plenty of page-turning drama…a winner.”

—Entertainment Weekly

“Ford expands his repertoire with this brimful first novel about live, love and self-discovery over the course of a steamy Provincetown summer…a satisfying beach book—and a pleasant fiction debut for Ford.”

—Publishers Weekly

“A made-for-the-beach page-turner, complete with characters twining in and out of one another’s arms and destinies that may leave readers wishing for a wintertime sequel.”

—Booklist

“A great summer novel that’s perfect for the beach or a lazy weekend in a hammock out back. It has, indeed, the potential to become a gay classic. That’s because Ford has succeeded in putting a little bit of each of us in his characters. But the real proof of the pudding: you’ll find yourself thinking about these characters long after you’ve finished. In my book that’s a sign of a remarkable talent.”

—The Letter

“Ned, it’s Jack.”

I open my eyes and look up into the shadows that fill the ceiling over the bed. Rain is falling, drumming on the roof, and vaguely I make a mental reminder to clean the gutters before the storm promised by the weatherman on the evening news arrives in full force. Tomorrow, perhaps, after I finish grading the stack of freshman essays sitting on my desk in the next room. If I can find the ladder in the mess that is the barn.

Beside me, Thayer rolls onto his back and breathes deeply. As usual, he’s somehow managed to pull most of the quilt around himself so that he’s cocooned in warmth. I both admire and resent his ability to sleep so fully, like a child. Or a dog, I think, as on his smaller bed beside ours Sam imitates Thayer, stretching his big paws and sighing contentedly.

How old is Sam now? I count back, ticking off the years. Eleven? No, I correct myself. Twelve. Twelve years since Thayer and I returned from the Banesbury County Animal Shelter with him sitting between us on the seat of our pickup, nose raised hopefully as he sniffed the air for the scent of home. Even then his paws had been enormous, hinting at the great lumbering beast he was soon to become.

Twelve years. How did they slip by so quickly, turning the lively puppy we couldn’t keep away from the pond behind the house into the gray-muzzled fellow who now spends most of the hours asleep in a pool of sun on the porch? What have they done, too, to Thayer and myself? Somewhere in that rush of days we’ve slipped from our forties into our fifties, our hair graying and our bodies beginning to betray us in small ways—eyesight that proves more and more unreliable, muscles that complain more than they used to about getting the chores done. My last birthday was number 56, and Thayer will catch up to me in less than a month’s time.

We are, all of us—men and dog—growing old together. Older, Thayer says whenever I mention the unstoppable advancement of time. Not old. “We’ll never be old,” he says defiantly, kissing me on top of my head where my hair is thinning. “And you shouldn’t worry so much,” he tells me. “It’s burning a hole in your head, like a crop circle.”

This eternal optimism is one of the many things I love about this man, my partner for nearly fifteen years. He is the antidote to my suspicion that the world is forever on the brink of calamity, teetering perilously between salvation and destruction, ready to tumble headlong toward annihilation at the merest push. He saves me from myself on a daily basis. And he bakes the sweetest apple pie I have ever tasted. What he sees in me I don’t know and am afraid to ask, in case thinking about the answer finally makes him see what a fool he’s been to stick around.

And what of Jack? Has Jack aged along with the rest of us? I can’t help but wonder. Although I’m trying desperately to distract myself from thinking about him, he intrudes, pushing his way in as he always has, as if he belongs in the room simply because he wants to be there. It’s how he’s always approached the world. I know from far too much past experience that now that he’s settled in, he won’t go away, so I give in and pull back the covers.

The wood floors of our old farmhouse are cool beneath my feet, and groan softly as I walk from the bedroom, down the hallway, and into my office. Sitting at my desk, I turn on the lamp and surround myself with a circle of light. Pushed back, the darkness retreats through the window. The rain seems to dilute the blackness, and through the thinning night I see the outline of the barn. Beyond it is the pond, and beyond that the blueberry bushes and, finally, the woods. This is the place I call home, the place where until Jack’s phone call I believed that I was safe from the past.

“Ned, it’s Jack.” And just like that the ground fell away beneath my feet. Even now, hours later, I still feel as if I’m tumbling through the air, waiting to hit the ground.

I open one of the desk’s drawers and remove an envelope. Yellowed with time, it’s addressed to a house I no longer live in, on a street thousands of miles away, in a city I left long ago without looking back. Inside is a card decorated with a Christmas scene and signed with a hastily-scrawled signature. Tucked into the card are two photographs.

I don’t know why I’ve kept either the card or the photos. I’m not by nature a sentimental man, a trait that confounds Thayer, a hopeless romantic who still has the flowers I gave him on our first date, dried and stored in a box somewhere in the attic. I don’t believe in cataloging my past, surrounding myself with reminders of people and places. What I want to remember I keep in my head.

But I’ve held on to these, although until Jack’s call I hadn’t looked at them in a very long time, and had to unearth them from a box of old tax returns and unfiled articles in my closet. Now, seeing them for the first time in many years, I’m reminded of something a photographer friend once told me. “The only subjects that photograph completely naturally,” she said, “are children and animals. The rest of us are afraid the camera will see us for who we really are.”

In the first photograph, Jack and I are children, probably four or five years old. We’re dressed in nearly identical outfits—cowboy costumes complete with hats and little pistols. Jack is waving his gun at the camera and beaming, while I look at the gun in my hand with a perplexed expression, as if concerned that at any moment it might go off.

As I look at the boys Jack and I once were, I can’t recall the occasion for the cowboy getups. It’s one of the many childhood moments that have disappeared from the files of my memory like scraps of recycled paper. Without the photographic evidence, I’d be unable to prove its existence at all. But there we are, the two of us, captured forever as we appeared in that one brief moment in time.

The occasion of the second photograph I remember more fully. It was a birthday party for a mutual acquaintance. This time Jack and I are men nearing forty. It was one of the last times I saw him. Once again, Jack is smiling for the camera while I look away, caught in profile. Gone are the cowboy outfits, and there are no guns in our hands, but something much more dangerous separates us. A man. Andy Kowalski.

Andy stands between Jack and me. We flank him, like guards, although neither of us touches him. Andy regards the photographer with disinterest, his handsome face perfectly composed as if he is alone in front of a mirror. Once again I think of animals and children and how they lack the fear of being betrayed by the camera. Andy Kowalski is something of both.

These two photographs, taken decades apart, roughly mark the beginning and the end of my relationship with Jack. With Andy, too, although our time together was only half as long. Both friendships were laid to rest when I came to Maine to start my life over again, when I left behind everything I knew and everything I was, to become something else.

But the past has apparently decided not to stay buried. Jack’s call has opened a door I thought to be long shut and locked. Now it stands open, waiting for me to walk through. When I look beyond it, though, all I see is a room filled with dusty boxes, boxes best left unopened.

“Hey.”

Thayer’s voice, soft and sleepy as it is, startles me. He comes into the office and puts his hands on my shoulders.

“What are you doing up so early? When I woke up and you weren’t there, I thought maybe my mama was right after all and the Rapture had come and Jesus had swept you into his bosom. I was afraid you’d left Sam and me to face the army of hell all on our own.”

“Somehow I think I’m the last one Jesus would sweep into his bosom if he came back,” I tell him. “And even if he did, I think you and Sam would do just fine against Satan and his hordes.”

“Sam maybe,” says Thayer, leaning over my shoulder. “He’s a tough old boy. But I’d be the first one on my knees letting ’em brand me with the Number of the Beast.”

He picks up the photographs. “Who are these handsome gentlemen?”

I sigh. Although he knows the basic outline of my life’s story, Thayer has heard very few of the details. Not because I fear knowing them would change how he feels about me, but simply because I’ve never felt the need to tell them.

“That is a long and complicated tale,” I answer.

“Well, apparently it’s interesting enough that it got you out of bed. And now I’m up, too, so I think it’s only fair that you tell me,” Thayer says. “I’ll go put the coffee on.”

He leaves me alone with the photos and with the memories that are starting to push their way into my thoughts. Do I really want to tell him about Jack and Andy? Can I even remember it all and make some sense of it? I teach history to my students, but my own is one I’m not sure that I’m completely qualified to relate. I fear that given my role in the events, I’m an unreliable narrator. At best, my memories are tarnished by years spent trying to erase them, so that what remain are faded, possibly beyond recognition.

Still, I find that part of me wants to tell the story. Maybe, I think, it will help me decide what to do about what Jack has called to tell me. More likely, it will simply resurrect old ghosts. Either way, Thayer is waiting downstairs with coffee, and I find that I can no longer sit up here alone.

I leave the photos behind and descend the creaky staircase to the first floor. The smell of coffee scents the air, and the kitchen is comfortingly lit. The doorway glows, and through it I see Thayer setting two mugs on the table. Sam has followed him downstairs and has stretched himself out on the floor. His tail thumps against the worn planks as I enter and sit down, and then he closes his eyes and settles back into sleep.

“All right,” Thayer says, sitting down across from me. “Start talking.”

For many reasons, August of 1950 was not a pleasant time to be nine months pregnant, particularly for my mother, Alice Brummel. The war in Korea, less than two months old, weighed heavily on the minds of Americans everywhere, and my mother was no exception. Worried that there might be rationing, she’d taken to buying large quantities of things like bread, sugar, and coffee, all of which she stored in the basement, along with bottles of water and extra blankets, which she fully expected to need when the North Koreans began running rampant through Pennsylvania and it became unsafe to venture outdoors unarmed.

When she wasn’t stocking up on emergency supplies, she was contending with my father, Leonard Brummel. Unlike his wife, my father felt that the whole Korean business would be settled swiftly and efficiently by the superior war-waging power of the good old U.S. of A. Unconcerned for his own safety, he was therefore free to focus instead on the war raging between his beloved Philadelphia Phillies and everyone else in major league baseball.

The summer of 1950 belonged—as far as the entire baseball-loving population of Pennsylvania was concerned—to the team that had been dubbed the Whiz Kids. Young, cocky, and with the talent to back up their attitude, the Phillies had stormed to the front of the National League thanks to the work of guys like Andy Seminick, Granny Hamner, Dick Sisler, and Robin Roberts. These resident gods of Shibe Park were my father’s sole interest during those hot, sticky days, and every evening he came home from his insurance salesman job, settled into his favorite chair with a bottle of Duke beer, and listened to the night’s game on the radio.

My mother was not without a sympathetic ear, however. As luck would have it, her best friend and next-door neighbor, Patricia Grace, was also pregnant. Like my father, Patricia’s husband, Clark, was also unavailable for support, but not because he was in love with a baseball team. Clark Grace, who didn’t know an earned run average from a double play, was a scientist—a physicist—and suddenly much in demand by the military. He was currently spending most of his time in Washington, working on something he described vaguely to his wife and neighbors as “a possible new fuel source made from hydrogen.”

With their husbands otherwise occupied, Alice and Patricia spent most of their time together. As their bellies swelled in tandem, they passed the mornings playing cards while lamenting their sleeplessness, their hemorrhoids, and the utter unattractiveness of maternity clothes. Out of concern for the welfare of the country, they were careful to limit themselves to two cups of coffee and four Lucky Strikes apiece, not wanting to take more than their share. In the afternoon, they did their shopping at DiCostanza’s grocery store and, if Clark was staying in Washington, made dinner together in Alice’s kitchen, leaving a plate in the refrigerator for Leonard before going downtown to see a movie or sit in the park. If Clark was home, dinners would be made and eaten separately, but as soon as Leonard was ensconced in front of the radio and Clark in his study, the two women would be out the screen doors of their kitchens and on their way.

Given this closeness, it was no surprise when both Alice and Patricia went into labor within minutes of one another. On a particularly torpid Thursday afternoon, while searching for potential ingredients to put into the fruit salad recipe they’d clipped out of the Ladies’ Home Journal earlier in the day, Patricia was in the process of thumping a honeydew melon to test its freshness when she felt a wetness on her legs and realized to her dismay that her water had broken right there in the produce section and that her good shoes were most likely soiled beyond repair. Turning to alert Alice, she discovered her friend looking at the apple in her hand with an astonished expression that suggested that she, too, was engaged in something more significant than simply admiring the quality of the fruit.

Moments later, they were on their way to Mercy Hospital, Alice at the wheel of the Nash Rambler Leonard had purchased for her use in May, but which she’d rarely taken out of the driveway. Patricia, in the passenger seat, clutched the door handle and called out directions. By the time they reached the hospital, both women were breathing heavily and barely able to remember their names to give them to the attending nurse. It wasn’t until they were installed in beds next to each other and receiving simultaneous injections of scopolamine that they realized they’d forgotten to inform their husbands of their impending fatherhood.

As it turned out, there was no immediate hurry. Both women would be in labor for some hours, giving Leonard and Clark time to arrive at the hospital and take up stations in the waiting room, where they sat nervously and passed the hours waiting to hear their names called. For Clark, the call came shortly before midnight, when a nurse arrived to tell him that he was the proud father of a healthy baby boy. He had hardly finished receiving congratulations from Leonard when an almost identical nurse appeared to announce that the second birth had occurred at exactly one minute after twelve.

And so it was that Jackson Howard Grace was born on August the 10th and I was born on August the 11th. As for my name, had it been up to my father it would have been Phillip, for obvious and unfortunate reasons. My mother, however, stood her ground and I became Edward Canton Brummel. My father’s disappointment at this turn of events faded later in the year when the Phillies won the National League pennant for the first time since 1915 in a nail-biter that came down to the last game on the final day of the season and a 4 to 1 win against the favored but despised Brooklyn Dodgers. And although they subsequently lost the World Series to what my father referred to for the rest of his life only as “that other team from New York,” he continued to view his Whiz Kids as the greatest team in baseball history.

The next several years passed quietly, as Jack and I did the requisite growing up and our parents duly noted every coo and giggle, every burp and bowel movement, each more glorious than the last. Our days were spent together, as were most holidays, our grandparents living far enough away that regular visits were difficult. Our mothers even dressed us alike, so that we were often mistaken for brothers, despite Jack’s having his mother’s fair hair and blue eyes and me having inherited my father’s darker looks.

Thankfully, my mother’s preoccupation with the North Korean army waned as it became apparent that although the war was not going to end as quickly as my father had believed, it was highly unlikely that our small house was going to become the base of operations for Kim Il Sung’s militia. And once it did end, in the summer of 1953, she and Patricia celebrated by throwing Jack and me a third birthday party, complete with matching cakes and a pony upon whose back we were posed for numerous photographs.

In an age where most of us move fairly frequently to accommodate changes in schooling, employment, romantic involvement, or just plain boredom, it seems inconceivable that both my family and Jack’s remained in the same houses for more than fifty years. Yet they did, and for the two of us it meant that neither knew a time without the other. From the time I can remember, Jack was there, as present and as constant as the sun.

The differences between us first emerged when we were old enough to begin talking. Jack discovered early on that adults found him charming and irresistible when he spoke, a trait he was quick to use to his advantage. I, on the other hand, preferred to remain quiet, observing the world around me and trying desperately to find in it some sense of order that would explain the reasons things happened the way they did. Our mothers joked that while Jack’s first word was “more,” mine was “why.”

These contrasting personalities extended to the ways in which we explored our surroundings, beginning with the shared lawn between our two houses and extending in larger and larger circles to include first our street, then the neighborhood, and eventually the whole town. Where Jack threw himself headlong into life, expecting someone to be there should he happen to fall and assuming that everything would be okay, I wavered before every step. Jack wouldn’t hesitate to climb a tree or attempt to ride a bike, and even when he fell or scraped a knee, he laughed, delighted at the many ways in which the world could surprise him. I was more likely to be the one encouraging caution, to which Jack’s reply was always a playful, “You worry too much.”

Our partnership had benefits for both of us that extended beyond the simple joys of friendship. As we advanced in school, my studiousness meant that I was able to help Jack with his assignments, which held little interest for him. He, in turn, was the buffer between myself and the social world of public school. Shy and awkward around other children, I dreaded the daily social interactions that Jack took for granted, in fact looked forward to. Popularity came naturally to him, where for me it was almost completely unimaginable. Yet due to my association with him, I was spared a number of humiliations that otherwise would have assuredly befallen me. In the cafeteria, I always had a place at his side, and when the time came for choosing teams for kickball, I was always Jack’s first pick.

Whether Jack was aware of what he was doing for me, I don’t know. I think for him it was simply a matter of my being his best friend, and he was doing for me what best friends did for one another. Certainly we never spoke of it, any more than we spoke about how I did his math problems and helped him cheat on the occasional test. It was just the way things were, and the way they continued to be as year followed year.

I recall having only one fight with Jack during this time, in the summer we turned nine. It was over superheros. We were in Jack’s bedroom, sprawled on his bed reading the latest issues of our favorite comics, which we’d just picked up from the drugstore, along with an assortment of sour drops, bubble gum, and licorice. Turning the pages of his Superman comic, Jack posed the question of who would win in a battle between Superman and Batman. “I mean, if one of them was a bad guy,” he clarified.

“Batman would win,” I said without hesitation.

“Batman?” Jack asked, clearly ready to disagree.

“Sure,” I said. “He’s smarter. Superman is strong and all, but he’s not as smart as Batman.”

“You don’t have to be smart to win a fight,” Jack told me, shaking his head. “What a dope. Everyone knows it’s more important to be strong than smart.”

“What do you know?” I shot back, suddenly angry and not sure why.

“Don’t get sore at me,” said Jack, surprised by my outburst. “I just said Superman could beat up Batman.”

“He could not!” I shouted. “Take it back.”

I felt myself shaking. I stood up, hands balled at my sides. “Take it back!” I said again.

Jack sat up and looked at me as if I was some new creature he’d never encountered before.

“No,” he said stubbornly. “I’m not taking it back.”

I threw myself at him, all fists and anger. He fell back on the bed, momentarily caught off guard. I was on top of him, pinning him with my knees. I raised my hand to hit him, but stopped. He was looking at me with a confused expression, making no attempt to cover his face or otherwise protect himself. I felt my heart beating wildly in my chest as I struggled to understand what I was doing. Beneath me, Jack’s body rose and fell as he breathed, waiting to see what I would do.

I scrambled off the bed and stood in the middle of the room, glaring at my friend. Jack didn’t move. The comic book was crumpled at his side, the pages torn. At my feet, Batman’s face looked up at me. My cheeks burned with shame and lingering rage.

“You go to hell!” I told Jack.

His mouth fell open. Although Jack was proficient at cussing, I’d never sworn before, and the shock of hearing it must have taken him by surprise as much as my attack had. I could sense that I’d grown some in his estimation, and the knowledge thrilled me.

I turned and ran from his room, unable to look at him. Back in my own room, I shut the door and threw myself on my bed. Tears came hot and thick as I sobbed, letting out the emotions that roiled inside of me. Suddenly I didn’t know who I was or what I was feeling. The world had turned upside down, throwing me off balance in a way that at the same time filled me with both fear and excitement. In Jack’s room, for just a moment, our roles had been reversed, and for the first time I’d seen that perhaps neither of us was exactly what we appeared to be.

Eventually I slept, and when I woke, it was to hear my mother calling me for supper. I went down and joined her and my father at the table, where I ate my meatloaf and green beans silently while my parents talked to one another about their days. When I was done, I asked to be excused and slipped out the screen door to the backyard.

Jack was there, as I’d known he would be, sitting on the back steps of his house. He was holding a Mason jar in his hands and looking at a firefly he’d caught. I went over and sat next to him.

“Hey,” he said.

“Hey.”

“Want to sleep over tonight?” he asked.

I nodded, watching the firefly blink on and off and wondering if its light would burn my fingers if I touched it.

“Sure,” I told Jack.

For those of us born at the dawn of a new decade, life can take on the feeling of being trapped in the ever-advancing undertow of an unstoppable time line. Tied inexorably to the zero year of whatever period we happen to have been born into, we enter (or are dragged kicking and screaming into) each successive stage of life just as the world around us discards one worn-out cycle of years for a shiny new one. While amusing when one is young (how exciting to be in one’s twenties during the Roaring Twenties, say, or to turn 30 just as 1969 passes into 1970), this can quickly grow tiring, particularly in the later stages of life when many of us prefer not to be reminded that as civilization’s weary past is exchanged for the thrilling potential of a new decade, our own journey is winding down to its inevitable conclusion. (I imagine it is particularly vexing for those unfortunate enough to be birthed along with a new century, as the obvious challenge to live at least into the first year of the next one must be overwhelming indeed.)

Still, it is a remarkable experience to accumulate years hand-in-hand with the society in which you live. And it’s most interesting, I think, for those of us born, as Jack and I were, during a time when the world was on the verge of being completely upended. Born in the first year of the ’50s, we, along with every other citizen of the planet, were about to be plunged headlong into a period of extraordinary change that none of us could have foreseen.

The year Jack and I left the single digits and reached the magical age of 10, the adult population of the world had its attention fixed first on Fidel Castro, the charismatic yet worrisome Cuban leader whose willingness to purchase oil from the U.S.S.R. was causing more than a few sleepless nights in Washington, and later the spectacle of a sickly Richard Nixon debating fresh-faced John F. Kennedy in the first televised presidential debate. For those of us just completing our first decade, the year’s highlights were somewhat less historic, although to us just as memorable. For Jack and me, it culminated in meeting Chief Halftown, the star of our favorite daily television series, at the Buster Brown shoe store one perfect Saturday afternoon. After an hour’s wait in line we came face-to-face with our hero and he presented each of us with a personally signed photo and made us honorary members of his tribe. For weeks, we went nowhere without the eagle feathers he’d given us as tokens of our brotherhood, and we talked endlessly of leaving our terminally boring neighborhood and joining the chief and his painted braves in their secret western encampment.

The world seemed to only get more and more fantastic, with each passing month bringing new adventures for two boys with few worries. We felt like Tom Swift, whose encounter with the Visitor from Planet X and battles with the Asteroid Pirates I read aloud to Jack in all their dramatic glory as soon as I could check each new book out from the library, the two of us safe inside the fort we constructed—badly but proudly—from scraps of lumber my father picked up for us. Jack, in turn, perfected his impersonation of Roland, the pale vampire host of Philadelphia’s own Shock Theater, which we watched religiously during sleepovers in the family room of his house. “Good night, whatever you are,” Jack would intone ghoulishly, imitating Roland’s trademark line as the credits rolled for The Creeping Hand or whichever spine-tingling movie we’d just watched. A makeshift cape over his shoulders, he would advance upon me in my sleeping bag, eyes widened in a hypnotic stare. I obliged by feigning enchantment, maintaining my composure until Jack’s teeth were almost grazing my neck, at which point we would both collapse in hysterical shrieks, pleased beyond words.

Those are the mile markers of that time for me, those seemingly small memories that have remained in the files of my mind while others have been discarded. The events more commonly noted on official time lines—the Bay of Pigs invasion and the resulting days of fear, the shooting of the first person trying to cross the Berlin Wall, the death of Marilyn Monroe—were things I heard my parents talk about. To me, they happened in another world, not the one I lived in, and therefore were of no consequence.

The exception, perhaps, was the launching of the first man into space. What boy—what child—isn’t captivated by the magic of the stars? Who among us hasn’t stood gazing up at bodies whose silver light reaches us from millions of miles away, and wondered what secrets are cloaked by the darkness of frozen, swirling galaxies? Even now, waiting for Sam to finish his last voiding of water before bed, I sometimes stand in the yard beneath the spreading arc of night and imagine the worlds beyond worlds waiting to be discovered.

In the summer and fall of 1960, Jack and I spent hours discussing, with the unparalleled wisdom of 10-year-olds, the possibilities that awaited the first men to penetrate the vastness of the cosmos. NASA, created only two years before, could have benefitted greatly from the rich science of our boyish imaginations, if only they’d known we were available to them. Sadly undiscovered, we nonetheless outlined the dangers, enumerated the possibilities, and created, based on our knowledge (gleaned primarily from comics and the aforementioned Tom Swift novels), the best course of action for the lucky pioneers of the last frontier. When, on April 12 of 1961, Soviet cosmonaut Yuri Gagarin became the first human in space, we celebrated his victory over gravity with Pepsi-Cola drunk from appropriately missile-shaped bottles and a recreation of the event in our very own Vostok I made from three O-Boy lettuce cartons and copious amounts of aluminum foil purloined from our mothers’ kitchens. While our parents murmured unhappily about the Soviets’ early lead in the space race, we knew only that Gagarin had fulfilled our dreams, and was therefore worthy of becoming our hero.

He held the position for less than three weeks, when we unceremoniously dethroned him for our country’s very own Alan B. Shepard. This time our relieved parents threw a backyard cookout in celebration of America’s success. Rechristening our ship Freedom 7, Jack and I gloried in the power that was NASA, lying side by side in the cramped confines of the boxes and soaring together toward the moon while our fathers drank beer and our mothers dished up potato salad and hot dogs. We dreamed of one day being chosen to lead the charge to Mars, or Venus, and promised one another that we would do it as a team. Afterward, we dashed around the yard holding sparklers bought for the Fourth of July but broken out early. Spinning them in crackling circles of silver and gold, we were two comets hurtling with carefree abandon on dizzying trajectories through the early spring evening.

The friendship of boys is a powerful and mysterious thing. To the observer looking in from the outside, it may appear little more than a social contract, and to some extent it is. Boys, especially when young, form friendships based on nothing more than the proximity of their houses, a mutual appreciation of a sporting team, or even a shared enemy. Ask an 11-year-old boy why his best friend is his best friend, and you’ll likely receive a shrug and an “I don’t know” in response. Ask the same question of an 11-year-old girl, and the reply will be not only heartfelt but built around an extensive list of thoroughly-explored reasons.

Despite the seeming simplicity of the bond between boys, the core of the relationship is as complex as any advanced mathematical proof. Even the boys themselves may not understand why it is they seek companionship with one another. “I don’t know” is, in fact, an honest answer. Rare is the adolescent boy who will look at you and, with measured tones, say, “I guess he’s my best friend because when I’m with him I forget about all of the millions of self-doubts and insecurities I have. Oh, and even though I don’t really understand it, knowing that he likes me makes me feel good about who I am.”

Jack and I were no different. We gave little thought to what we were to one another. We just knew that we were best friends, even if we had yet to define what that meant. And we were to have two more years of innocent bliss during which things just were, without reason or motivation. But a funny thing happens in the twilight time around 13. The skin of boyhood begins to feel a little too small, and the soul starts to itch as it expands and the body follows. As legs grow too long for the pants of youth and wrists extend beyond the cuffs of shirts that fit only a week before, the world takes on strange new shapes, as if only now are the eyes coming fully into focus. Seemingly overnight, what seemed safe and familiar is revealed as foreign and filled with perils.

We were no exceptions to this rule. As 11 turned to 12, and 12 to 13, the very molecules of our bodies rearranged themselves. Voices deepened, muscles thickened, hair and new scents burst forth from beneath skin suddenly teeming with mysteries. Changing for gym class, we and the other boys stole anxious glances at one another, searching for evidence that we were not alone. This, in turn, gave rise to new anxieties as we began to compare and contrast the shifting geographies hidden beneath our clothes. Seeing someone further along in the process of adulthood made us question our own progress, filling our minds with a host of doubts and imagined failures.

I say “we” because I have the benefit of looking back with the surety provided by more than half a century of life. Almost certainly we were, to a boy, in the throes of agony caused by the machinery of previously-dormant gonads thrown into production, of glands and ducts dripping intoxicating elixirs into our blood that turned us mad and betrayed us in terrible ways. It is the rare boy who escapes the deliciously malevolent torture of becoming a man, and although nearly unbearable at the time, the end results are almost always worth the hardships.

And so we suffered in 1963, alone but together, the boys of the seventh grade class of James Buchanan Junior High School. Even our grade level was symbolic of our position, sandwiched as it was between the relative safety of the sixth and the restless excitement of the eighth, the springboard into what we believed (wrongly, we would find out soon enough) the total freedom of high school. Trapped in this limbo, we wandered the halls of a school named for the only Pennsylvanian to hold the highest office in the land. Buchanan, incidentally, was also the only bachelor president, a fact which might have comforted a few of us had we understood its potential significance to our own lives. At the time, we were too preoccupied with being embarrassed about everything to care.

We were a group of little wolves, men disguised as boys, trying to both remain a pack and forge our own paths. We pretended to be ready to take on anything, all the while scared to death that we would fail. We staged mock battles in the guise of football games and science club experiments, fighting for the chance to be king, if only for a moment, the other boys our grudgingly worshipful subjects until it was their turn. Most of all, we rode the swells of our emotions up one side and down another, startled at the ferocity of our feelings.

In the midst of all this, on the afternoon of Friday, November 22, as we impatiently awaited the arrival of Thanksgiving vacation and the promise of pumpkin pie, the world came to a standstill with the assassination of President John F. Kennedy. People of my age are frequently asked if they remember what they were doing when they heard that Kennedy had been shot. I do, of course, for more than one reason. It was a little past two o’clock, and I was standing in the locker room of the school’s gym. I was looking, but trying not to, at the penis belonging to a boy with the unfortunate name of William Williams. We called him, of course, Bill. Tall and beginning to fill out with the muscles that would make him the formidable man he eventually became, Bill was the current frontrunner in the race in which we were all feverishly participating.

I was pulling my T-shirt over my head, using the opportunity to peer from beneath its temporary shield for a lingering look at what hung between Bill’s legs and comparing it, unfavorably, to what lay cradled in the cup of my jockstrap. It was the last class period of the day, the only thing standing between us and a week free from classes, textbooks, and tests. There were two new Hardy Boys novels awaiting me at home, and for that brief moment even the looming threat of dodge-ball and the victory of Bill’s superior penis over mine couldn’t bring me down.

Then Coach Stellinger walked in, his ever-present clipboard held at his side, and asked for our attention. We listened as, tears flowing from his eyes, he informed us of the death of the man who had promised to bring about a brave new world. School, he said in a voice shaking with unconcealed sadness, was to be dismissed early so that we could return to our families for comfort. We were told to get dressed and report to our homerooms as quickly as possible.

I walked home with Jack through a world that seemed to have come to a standstill. The policeman who waved us across the street had cheeks wet with grief, and even the dogs in the yards were quiet as we passed, as if they knew that life had forever changed. We stopped first at Jack’s house and, finding it empty, went on to mine, where we discovered our mothers in the kitchen, teacups untouched as they awaited further news—any news—that would reverse time and make everything all right again.

That night Jack was allowed to sleep over, and instead of our usual arrangement of sleeping bags downstairs, we shared my bed. In the darkness, the moonlight illuminating the model rocket ships that hung from the ceiling, we talked awkwardly of our feelings about the murder of a man we didn’t know, but whose loss we understood to be great.

I don’t recall the words we exchanged. What I remember is the feeling of Jack’s body next to mine. We’d slept together before, but that night it felt like the first time. Perhaps, electrified by the nation’s shared heartache, I was filled as with the Holy Ghost, my soul expanding beyond reason and amplifying every feeling. When Jack’s leg brushed against mine as he shifted beneath the blanket, I held my breath, both wanting the moment to end and wanting it to go on forever. When he didn’t move, the warmth of his skin seared itself into me. His words became meaningless, and mine back to him instantly forgotten. My head swam with feelings of loss coupled with a growing excitement I couldn’t explain. Horrified, I felt myself growing hard, and was instantly ashamed. I shut my eyes and willed myself to think about the president, his head burst open and his blood spilling across the pink field of Jackie’s lap as her screams rent the air. Like a martyr tempted and beseeching God for aid, I looked into her face and asked for forgiveness.

Beside me, Jack faded into sleep. As he did, his hand slipped from where it rested on his chest and fell atop mine. I let it stay there, the beat of his heart transferred to me through his fingertips, until eventually I was overcome by tiredness and confusion and my mind saved itself by rendering me unconscious. My sleep that night was filled with visions of many things, of gunshots and people running in blind panic, of Bill Williams gently soaping his chest beneath a spray of water, of rockets and falling angels. When I woke up, I knew that not only the world, but I had changed forever.

Next to me, Jack was on his side, turned away and snoring gently. I resisted an urge to put my arm around him and pull him close, my chest to his back. Instead, I turned away, pressing my hands against my belly as if in prayer. It was then I discovered that my pajamas were stained with the milkiness of dreams.

I often tell my first-year students that when attempting to understand history, it’s crucial to ask yourself what the defining moments are. They nod in agreement, as if this is something they themselves have stated repeatedly to their friends. Then I ask them to name some of these moments. Inevitably, they rattle off a predictable list of battles, or discoveries, or inventions, and label these the points at which civilization took the next great leap forward: the harnessing of electric power, the ascendance of George of Hanover to the throne of England, the bombing of Hiroshima. These, they tell me with confidence, are the pivots on which the course of history has turned.

I then inform them, gently but firmly, that they are wrong. I tell them that the examples that they’ve listed are the manifestations of the turning points. The actual points themselves occurred earlier, probably in unremarkable places and under mundane circumstances, and will in most cases never be publicly known. They occurred in laundries, on trains, and in the holds of ships. They occurred while someone was standing on a hilltop in winter looking at the falling snow and thinking that it might provide excellent cover for an early-morning assault on the camp of the enemy below, in a bed where one or the other of a pair of sated lovers suggested that life might be more agreeable if an inconvenient spouse were done away with, and during a tedious sermon when an uncomfortable congregant’s attention turned from the glory of God to the problem of ill-fitting trousers.

These seemingly unimportant moments, noticed by none but those to whom they happen, are the real history of t. . .